Am I Chasing My Twin Flame?

Dear Grace,

I’ve been on this Twin Flame journey for quite a while now, and I’m feeling really stuck. I think about my Twin Flame every moment of every day.

I can’t seem to escape it, and I’m worried that I’m chasing them, even though I don’t want to be. Is this still considered “chasing”? And if so, how do I stop?

Donna, Brooklyn, NY

Dear Donna,

Thank you for your question—it’s one that many Twin Flames on this path can relate to, and I’m so glad you’ve reached out for clarity.

First and foremost, I want to reassure you that what you’re experiencing is not uncommon in the Twin Flame journey. The intensity of the connection, combined with the emotional and spiritual upheavals, can often feel like you’re stuck in an endless loop of thoughts, emotions, and desires. It’s completely natural for the mind to be consumed with thoughts of your Twin Flame, especially when you feel so deeply connected to them on multiple levels. This connection isn’t something that can easily be “turned off.”

However, it’s also important to discern the difference between loving someone deeply and allowing that love to become an obsession. The “chasing” dynamic occurs when the focus of your attention becomes centered solely on the external connection with your Twin Flame, rather than turning inward to focus on your own healing, growth, and alignment. While the connection with your Twin Flame is undeniably powerful, the journey you’re on is ultimately one of self-realization and spiritual evolution.

Now, regarding your question of whether thinking about them 24/7 constitutes “chasing”—it’s important to reflect on the emotional state that these thoughts are creating for you. If the thoughts of your Twin Flame are causing you pain, anxiety, or a sense of lack, this can be a sign that you are in a “chasing” dynamic, even if unintentionally. True union, whether in the 3D or 5D, does not come from a place of need or obsession. It comes from a place of inner peace, self-empowerment, and mutual respect.

Here are a few steps to help you navigate this:

1.  Reframe the Energy: Instead of focusing on the external connection with your Twin Flame, redirect that energy inward. What parts of yourself are you avoiding? What emotional wounds or fears are being triggered by this connection? The constant thoughts about your Twin Flame are often signals to look deeper within yourself.
2.  Mindfulness and Detachment: It’s helpful to practice mindfulness and presence in the moment. This doesn’t mean pushing the thoughts away or denying your feelings, but allowing them to come and go without attaching to them. You can love your Twin Flame without needing to think about them 24/7. It’s about cultivating inner peace, so that you can experience the connection without it overtaking your entire life.
3.  Focus on Your Own Growth: The Twin Flame journey is about your personal ascension. Focus on the activities and practices that nurture your soul—whether that’s through meditation, self-care, or creative pursuits. The more aligned and whole you become, the less power the obsession will have over you.
4.  Trust the Process: Trust that your Twin Flame connection will unfold naturally when both of you are ready. There’s no need to chase, because you can trust that the right timing will reveal itself. The journey is not about forcing the connection but about surrendering to the path and allowing space for healing and growth.

Donna, please don’t be hard on yourself. The fact that you’re asking these questions shows your awareness and commitment to growth. The key is to redirect that energy toward your own healing and self-awareness. When you start to cultivate that inner peace, the constant thoughts about your Twin Flame will soften, and you’ll be in a better space to experience a balanced and harmonious union.

With love and encouragement,

Grace