Obsessive Thoughts About My Twin Flame

Dear Grace,

I’ve been struggling with constant thoughts of my Twin Flame. It feels like I’m obsessed, and no matter what I do, they’re always on my mind. Sometimes I wonder if my Twin Flame is feeling this too—if they’re sensing me in the same way I’m sensing them. Or am I completely alone in this pain and obsession? I’m trying to make sense of it all, but I’m finding it hard to separate my emotions from what may be happening energetically.

Sam, Mississippi, US

Dear Sam,

Thank you for your honest and vulnerable question. First of all, it’s important to acknowledge the depth of what you’re experiencing. The Twin Flame journey is intense, and it can feel as though your connection to your Twin Flame is all-encompassing. When you find yourself consumed by thoughts of them, especially when it feels obsessive, it’s natural to want to understand if they are going through the same thing.

To answer your question directly, it’s possible that your Twin Flame is sensing you, but this doesn’t always mean they are experiencing it in the same way you are. Twin Flames often have a strong energetic bond, and what one feels can sometimes ripple across to the other, especially when the connection is heightened. However, the way these feelings manifest can be very different for each person. For you, it may feel like an overwhelming need to be in their presence or to constantly think about them, while for them, it may show up in a different form—perhaps as a sense of curiosity or restlessness. The intensity of your feelings can be a reflection of your own emotional work, growth, or spiritual awakening that you’re undergoing as part of the process of union.

The key here is discernment. You are not alone in your pain, Sam, but it’s crucial to understand that this intense focus or obsession is also a signal for you to do some inner work. When you’re so focused on them, it can be hard to separate your feelings from your own journey. This is often when we begin to spiral, feeling like we are losing ourselves or projecting our emotional intensity onto the other person. The obsession can feel all-consuming, especially when there is uncertainty about whether they are feeling the same.

What I suggest, Sam, is to focus on grounding and shifting the focus back to you. This isn’t about “letting go” of the connection, but rather creating space for you to be present with yourself, independent of the constant thoughts of your Twin Flame. This shift allows you to begin to discern the difference between your own emotions and the energetic connection you share. Practice self-awareness and ask yourself: What do I need right now? What is this obsession trying to tell me about my growth and healing?

Instead of trying to decode their every thought or action, use this time to explore your own emotions and triggers. Often, obsessive thoughts are tied to unresolved emotional wounds or an unhealed part of us. By focusing on your own healing and inner peace, you can begin to regain your sense of self and find stability within, regardless of what your Twin Flame is experiencing.

Lastly, remember that you are not alone in your experience—this is a shared journey for many Twin Flames. The energetic connection you feel is real, but it’s important to create space for your own journey of healing. When you’re grounded in your own energy, your Twin Flame’s energy will begin to feel less overwhelming, and you’ll feel more empowered in your connection.

Stay strong, Sam, and know that this too is part of the process of growth. You are capable of navigating this, and when you turn inward, you will begin to feel the peace that comes with your own alignment.

With love and understanding,

Grace