Obsession and Spiritual Progress on the Twin Flame Journey

Dear Grace,

I’ve been on my Twin Flame journey for a while now, and lately, I find myself obsessing over my connection. No matter how much I try to distract myself or move forward, I can’t seem to stop thinking about them. It feels like I’m in a never-ending loop, and I’m starting to wonder if this means I’m stuck in it, unable to move forward spiritually. Does this obsession mean that I’m not progressing?

Beth, Hoover, Alabama

Dear Beth,

First of all, I want to acknowledge how challenging it can be to feel consumed by obsessive thoughts about your Twin Flame. You’re not alone in this experience—many people on the Twin Flame journey encounter this stage, and it’s important to recognize it as part of the process. Obsession, especially when it feels overwhelming, can be a sign that there’s something deep within you that needs attention.

Now, to directly address your question: Obsessing doesn’t necessarily mean you’re stuck, but it is a clear indicator that your energy is being diverted away from your own growth and inner alignment. The reality of the Twin Flame journey is that it’s not just about union with another person; it’s about union with yourself.

When obsession takes hold, it’s often because the emotional or energetic connection with your Twin Flame is triggering something within you—something that needs to be healed, released, or integrated. It’s very common for these deep connections to surface unresolved wounds, and that can manifest as obsessive thoughts or emotional turbulence. But here’s the key: this is your opportunity to heal, not a sign of spiritual stagnation.

You might be wondering if this means you’re stuck in a loop, and I understand why that would feel frustrating. However, the loop isn’t a permanent place—it’s a signpost. The more you dive into the emotions that are arising, and the more you focus on your own inner work, the more you can break free from the cycle of obsessive thinking. This requires grounding yourself, acknowledging the emotions coming up, and focusing on your healing journey—whether that’s through self-reflection, shadow work, or working through unresolved trauma.

It's also important to remember that spiritual growth isn’t linear. We often hear people speak about growth as though it’s a constant, upward trajectory. However, growth often happens in waves, and sometimes we need to revisit old wounds or triggers to fully release them. This does not mean you’re not progressing spiritually. On the contrary, you are progressing because you’re willing to feel and process those difficult emotions.

I encourage you, Beth, to turn your focus inward. Ask yourself: What is this obsession trying to teach me? Are there underlying fears or insecurities that need to be addressed? When you can find the answers within and bring yourself back into alignment, you’ll notice that the obsession begins to dissipate, and you’ll regain a sense of balance and peace within yourself. Union with your Twin Flame starts with union within yourself.

Lastly, trust the process and be compassionate with yourself. It’s not about forcing yourself to stop thinking about them; it’s about becoming more present with yourself and allowing space for those feelings to naturally transform. In the meantime, keep practicing self-love, grounding, and inner clarity, and trust that this phase is just one part of the bigger journey.

With love and understanding,

Grace